Ok yeah everybody, i know you're going to give me the "what the hell is wrong with u speech" and i totally understand.
Seriously who ever said getting over someone is easy. I miss him so much, yes i have tried to launch out into other things.At some point i had really forgotten about it him and started looking at other options.But could it be that simple?nahhhhh!
Confused! (read the previous post)
Everywhere i go, i think about him,i am with someone else and still wondering and thinking about him.Following redsapphire on her most recent post that love never dies a natural death, gurrl i totally agree.
Could loving someone be so difficult if they've actually moved on?
The reason i said this was because some nights ago i was mushy on the inside and i decided to send him an sms..oh by the way did i ever tell you,he is so good looking....
The content of the sms was "Do i ever cross your mind, was my sin so unpardonable? Just musing"
He replied "For the record, u sure do"
Me again"what was my sin?''
He replied"Avoidable stress"
SMS Literally stopped.
Communications stopped again till tonite.
I sent him an sms saying i missed him and truthfully i did.Why becos ever car that look like his passing seemed like him,every song i just so happened to be hearing,by default and otherwise, reminded me of him.It was just too much i had to send him the sms.Or maybe just thinking about it,it might have been the long PH glaring at me.
So he called later on tonight and for a space of two months, we were finally talking. He said we still have alot of chemistry but we weren't compatible.
OMG, I WISHED HE DIDN'T SAY THAT!
Even though to me the relationship didn't bring out the best at that time,i still so much desire to make it work.I still desire a chance to be with him.He says he hasn't moved on,so please why can't we work through this.
As it is, i think i am still totally in love with this guy.I crave for him.But is this right for me?Can i try to work around the whole incompatibility thing.Oh by the way,what he meant by us not being compatible is our constant fights which he says i generate and he stays long days before he forgives me.
Isn't the search for compatibility a top player in reasons why alot of eligible adults are unmarried?What the f**k is this compatibilty thingy?,Why is the thing standing in between the relationship with him?
Am i just crazy? Has anyone ever gone through this shit?
Please does anybody have a brother who is available to be a rebound guy,someone to knock me to my roots?
shhhsshhhhh i am tired.
I want to be love,be held,bbe in a relationship.Being alone sucks!
I don't want to continue just hanging around my girlfriends and friends alone.I want to be around a man that genuinely loves me,a man that would hold my hand,take walks with me.This whole public holiday is so long.I have bought series of long DVD' but it just doesn't cut it.
Yeah! Yeah! She's not confident in herself,she is not comfortable being alone,she can do alot on her own...ehn.na so!
Everybody needs someone special,nobody has to go through life alone.
13 comments:
I agree that nobody has to go through life alone but not everyone is right for you - the person you think is right for you might not be. It would not be nice if you were in a relationship with this guy and all the affection came from your side, there has to be balance. Being compatible has to run parallel with having chemistry, along with many other things. Just like me, you have so much love to give (and no guy) but it wouldn't be nice if you wasted it on the wrong person. Sorry if I sound cruel.
We all want to be loved and love. But the reality is, if the guy doesnt want you, u need to get over it and move on- and u will. It might seem impossible now, but with time u'll get over it. Let go....
As for all this fireworks u feel- i've been told that goes away- what maintains a relationship/marraige is friendship and compatibility.
As for what u feel.....sometimes i think there is thin line between love and infatuation. My recent blog asks what is love?
I don't think God created us to be alone. But if u find urself single, u have to learn how to deal with it and live life to the fullest- rather than wait for a man to fullfill u.
I have to say that ending relationships are one of the hardest things you will ever do. This is coming from someone who just fought and beat end stage cancer. Chemo, internal/external radiation, surgeries, life in the hospital etc...full on bad cancer. When you end a relationship a part of you is dying. You need to go through the grieving process and it just plain SUCKS. Don't give yourself too hard of a time for feeling the way you do. We all have been there and if anyone denies it they are LYING! I hope you feel better soon and please be kind to yourself!
Sobs! i hope i get over him soonest.Thanks i'll be back to give updates.
Greyamethyst, i am really sorry you feel the way you do.But the truth is you can't make anyone feel anything for you.Worst of all taking the begging route never gets one the winning ticket.Him telling you that u're not compatible is really what he feels.As it he doesn't have the desire to make thing the whole relationship work.Believe me trying to bear the whole burden is too much work,too hard to bear.I am certain you are young and have alot of chances of meeting several other men.I am not guaranteeing you that at this instant you'd stop feeling the way you are about him but given a particular amount of tyme,you'll get over it.its going to be hard,long and sometimes really cruel to think about but i guarantee you'll get over him.
I am sorry things didnt work out but please stop blaming yourself,the fault is not entirely yours.
Pls read my next post.
firstly hugs...this is my first time here! i do agree wiv ya that nobody has to go through life alone but you have to go through it with some1 who feels you are both compatible...its easier said than done to say you'll be fine with time but you will. xoxo
I wont ask what in the hell is wrong with you....Cause I already know. Your in love, and when your in love those things happen. I too have someone that has done me wrong....and Im still here, because I love him so much. I only hope and pray that time heals these wounds before we jump the broom.
RUNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!Girl, far away as possible (easier said than done)
I think you are playing with fire that will definately burn you,and you are darn to good to get burnt, and believe me when i say you are toooo fly for all of this.
Getting over someone you care about is not easy...
It is also easier said than done to move on because you've shared a great part of yourself with this person... I feel you...but ur life must go on...
I know alot of times you will have to reflect on this relationship and the things you will miss, but as u do so, please take out time to find out the lessons you can learn from it and areas u need to improve...
This will prepare you for a better person who is probably on the way...
During this public holiday, don't stay alone, hang out with friends and try not to talk about him...
Rita
http://www.preparingforurking.blogspot.com/
You cant have one foot in the door and yet you are trying to close the door....It just wont work. You need to stop communicating with him for a while, delete his number,if you feel like calling him call a friend or write down everything you feel like saying in a notebook/pad or your blog but dont call him.You need the space to get over him, space you wont get if you are constantly around him.It is strange when u r hurting from rejection, to hear someone say move on things will be fine. No matter how much u love him, He never loves u back. For all those wondering what went wrong Just stop wondering say it really aloud "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO ME". Only when one stops chasing and pursing someone who doesn't love you, will you open the door to that perfect person who will love you back with the same intensity that you will love him.
continue to deal with reality. Don't tell yourself, maybe someday... they'll change... True love accepts the person for who they are, even when they don't love you. It means accepting reality. When you love and accept reality at the same time, you are forced to move on.When you love without dealing with reality, you hurt yourself.Accept the reality and pray to God for the wisdom and strength you'll need to do that continuously until it ceases to become a problem Anyone that will still see you, sleep with you, and spend time with you, knowing they don't love you, and knowing how you feel, is selfish. Everyone deserves more than that. You can't force love out of your heart so don't try, that just hurts worse and you end up lying to yourself. You are human for loving, but you have to love yourself more.Casual dating can backfire however, because if the dates don't go well, it will just make you miss the person you love even more. Pray, and remember the good times but learn from the bad. Don't you want, one day, to be truly happy? Life is to short to give up the chance of true love for yourself. Go out into the world and continue to be the wonderful person that you are. Someone will see this, and love you just as much as you are capable of loving.
We are all human.......
we all need to love and be loved
but we do ourselves harm when we pine over those that dont love us....
surround yourself with people who DO love ya
u need to stop all forms of communication with him....
as Beyonce talk am
if i'm not your everything how about i be nothing...nothing at all to you......
everytyme i remember that line-i feel berra knowing i'd rather be with the "one" who wants/loves me as i am.......flaws and all.......
OK, 3 weeks no update......where art thou??
Thanks alot sirius..three weeks alrite.I will be back to give updates soonest..hopefully this week.
I have really been naughty.
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